No those two are not related except perhaps in fantasy land, so hold your horses ;)
I read this interesting piece here
Urban living brings about an interesting phenomenon, one which Milgram calls the Familiar Stranger.I can certainly identify with the term “familiar stranger” given that I am a regular commuter on public transit.
The Familiar Stranger is a person you see during your daily activities, but don’t interact with: the gentleman at the bus stop, the babysitter at the park, or the lady on the subway.
But consider for a moment you saw the lady on the subway while traveling to Paris. Can you imagine, it’s likely you would practically become best friends in a day!
To be a familiar stranger, a person has to be
2. repeatedly for a certain time period
3. without any interaction
But it’s a real relationship, in which both parties have agreed to mutually ignore each other, without any implication of hostility.
Students from a university in New York went to the commuter stations and interviewed commuters. They found that on average, commuters knew 4 familiar strangers but had only talked to 1.5 individuals.
Commuters said they have a fantasy relationship with familiar strangers, trying to figure out what kind of lives they lead, what their jobs are, etc.
This phenomenon is explained as a response to the overload of inputs from the environment — perceptual processing takes considerably less time than social processing.
Might as well use this time to describe one of those "familiar strangers".
I have no idea what to make of her. I just know on this train she is usually there. She takes a different train in and comes up the stairs to the lobby to switch to our train. I can close my eyes and almost imagine her. Brunette, curly hair slightly below the shoulders. Slim build, mostly in capris. Jeans rare. Thin framed glasses usually perched on a straight nose. Some times has sunglasses perched on top of her head. On warm days the thick lovely curls get tied in to a tight pony, where the strands of hair as soon as they are let free from the confines of whatever she uses to shepherd them, cascade free.
She always has a serene expression. A book is usually what she seems engrossed in. A look at the train arrival/departure board and without much of a look any where else she usually heads to a wooden bench. She then loses herself in her book. I have not seen her smile or talk to anyone. We have made eye contact once and we both had our expressionless “face” on, neither letting the other know what thoughts flowed under. The casual, almost indifferent but malice free looks that strangers often dispense with freely, and in generous amounts.
I have wondered about whats she does, the look is business casual. I haven’t noticed a ring. Is she a librarian maybe? ;-)
Oh man even as I was typing this up she just sat a few feet away from me, lavender shirt, black pants nice shoes, probably 3 inch heels. She is lost in her book as always and for me shall remain a mystery yet a familiar stranger.
Do any of you have any familiar stranger stories?
No more foreplay needed? Link here
Wait that’s just the title. I don’t want to be out on the couch or in the doghouse for this one in case *A* is reading ;).
Women may have a reputation for demanding lengthy foreplay, but they become sexually aroused as quickly as men, according to a new study that used thermal imaging to measure increased blood flow to genital regions.
While watching pornography, both sexes reach peak arousal within 10 minutes, on average, researchers report.
Earlier attempts to record sexual arousal have involved invasive probes and electrodes, according to Tuuli Kukkonen, who helped conduct the study led by Irv Binik at McGill University Health Centre in Montreal, Canada.
For this reason, Kukkonen and her colleagues used thermal imaging to record raised temperatures in subjects’ genital areas. The thermal imaging camera can measure temperature changes from a distance and relay the information to a computer for analysis.
More heat indicates greater blood flow to the genital area, a tell-tale sign of sexual arousal. Kukkonen says that modern thermal imaging technology is much more sophisticated than earlier versions, and can now accurately measure temperature changes of 0.001°C within a few square millimetres.
In the new study, 28 men and 30 women first watched a video of the Canadian countryside in a room on their own, so that researchers could establish each individual’s baseline temperatures.
Subjects were naked from the waist down and positioned themselves such that their genital area was exposed and readable by the thermal imaging device. The participants next watched another video with the same subject matter, or one featuring pornography, horror or comedic clips from the Best Bits of Mr Bean.
The computer only registered a spike in genital temperatures while subjects watched pornography, and not the other films. In those viewing porn, these temperatures increased by about 2°C, on average.
Moreover, men reached peak sexual arousal in 665 seconds – about 10 minutes – while women arrived at maximal arousal in 743 seconds. The difference between the times was not statistically significant, the researchers point out.
Mind you this is just a study and pornographic images clearly have an affect. But wonder how this would work for most couples, who may have nothing else going to “assist” the process but each other and their imaginations (this can be very effective). I don’t think it is a given either ways. Some of us can surely attest that this works differently at different times.